Tuesday, April 5, 2011

Proverbs 5 - Keeping My Man Happy

Victor, like most Christian men, works in the world’s atmosphere. He’s arrived home at the end of a long day to share yet another discouragement with me. The men he works with cheat on their wives and girlfriends. He’s come to a new understanding of the term Southern Gentleman. Outwardly, these men appear clean-cut, intelligent, and well-rounded. Inside, they are a mess. Depressed. Proud. Sly. Divorces waiting to happen.

Proverbs 5 speaks to men, telling them to heed wisdom’s advice. Parents are supposed to set the example for loving relationships. For solid relationships. For covenant relationships. They are supposed to teach that marriage is a good thing. “A man who finds a wife finds a good thing, And obtains favor from the Lord.” (Proverbs 18:22) So why do they go looking for that immoral woman with honey dripping from her lips?

I can tell you why my husband doesn’t

Drink water from your own cistern, And running water from your own well: I read God’s Word every day and apply it to my life. I don’t depend on him to walk for me. I walk with God on my own two feet. If he’s doing his duty by washing me with the water of the Word, great. But if he isn’t, it wouldn’t matter, because I have my own relationship with God that I tend to at all times.

Should your fountains be dispersed abroad, Streams of water in the streets? I never go anywhere near other men without my husband. I don’t need rumors flying that someone saw me with another man. I don’t need other men thinking they can make advances toward me because my husband isn’t there. I wouldn’t dream of dispersing my fountains into the streets. If a man needs ministry, he can contact my husband. He doesn’t need me. He needs a man.

Let them be only your own, And not for strangers with you. Do I think it’s okay to allow others to participate in my love life? Whether via pornography, multiple partners, or any other sexual perversion? No! The world’s full of these traps. “The marriage bed is undefiled.” It should only be my own. Not allowing others into my intimacy keeps my husband in my bed and not someone else’s.

Let your fountains be blessed, And rejoice with the wife of your youth. I will never be an they’re punishing them for a few harsh words or a moment of strife. “Your body is not your own.” Once married, our bodies are for our husbands, as theirs are for us. It’s God’s idea, not man’s. Withholding sex from our husbands is not the answer to our problems. Having intimate times allows them to minister to us. In that, we can rejoice!

As a loving deer and a graceful doe, Let her breasts satisfy you at all times; And always be enraptured with her love. I make myself available to my husband any time he needs me. Whether for sexual pleasure or to assist him with a project or just to hang out, I understand that he needs me. If I’m unavailable every time he calls upon me, he’s bound to find someone else to fulfill those needs. By making myself available, he avoids the immoral woman whose lips drip with honey. He’s enraptured with my love for him. He recognizes my affection and knows I’m always going to be there for him. “Many daughters have done well, but you excel them all.” Because I meet his needs.

Vic loves telling me how many times he’s heard, “I wish I had a wife like that.” He opens his lunchbox on the jobsite. It overflows with bottled water or Gatorade, two homemade sandwiches, a yogurt, a snack, and the occasional leftovers. Because I get up with his alarm, pack his lunch, help him remember everything he needs, and kiss him goodbye in the morning. Other men envy this. They wish their wives would even roll over and say good morning. Instead, these women grunt and roll in the opposite direction, not wanting to be bothered with getting up or having their beauty rest disturbed.

A wise woman once told me, “Get up with your husband in the morning. Pack his lunch, and see him off to work.” I started doing it the next morning. I haven’t stopped. He’s come to expect it, and it’s my pleasure to do it. Next to God, he’s my priority. And it’s an honor to serve such a fine man!

What can you do for your husband today?

Photo Copyright 2010 Alycia W. Morales 


  1. I'm praying for him today...I can't be with him in his work...and I cannot solve the problem he is facing, but I know the One who can.

    Thanks for the reminders today. Blessings!

  2. Anita,
    Prayer is one of the greatest things we can bless our husbands with. Some days, we're probably the only ones remembering to lift them up to God. Blessings to you, too!


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